16 Ways to Love Your Lover
Published by Mary on 2006/8/22 (3600 reads)
Kroeger and Thuesen give an overview of how an INTJ is likely to behave in relationships. "Among the most visionary of the sixteen types, whose gift to the world is independence.
They prize their independence, and wish it upon everyone in their lives--mate, children, friends, and associates. They face a constant challenge of reconciling the vision of a perfect relationship with reality. They are inclined to constantly improve every part of a relationship, no matter how good it may already be."
INTJs come across as deep, somewhat serious, and intellectual. They may appear overly aloof and lacking in fun. They appear to see right through others, giving the impression that there is little that they don't or can't understand.
Thinking deeply before speaking, INTJs are usually slow to share. They love a conceptual exchange or discussion. Though they are not necessarily meant sarcastically, an INTJ's comments can seem biting to others, and they are often unable or unwilling to see their responsibility in a negative situation.
Though intimacy for an INTJ may be richer in its imagined state, they seek to frame it and understand it, after which they work constantly at improving it and deepening it.
INTJs may be very creative about finical schemes, but the day-to-day details are not their strong point. They tend to be very conservative spenders.
When faced with a conflict, the INTJ likes to have time to think out a response. They do not shy away from stressful encounter, but believe that a better understanding of the words used will allow any conflict to be turned into a learning experience. They may be accused of over-analyzing or intellectualizing a situation, particularly when a more sensitive type is involved.
INTJs stand by their commitments, though they may become preoccupied with reinterpreting the original contract. They believe that agreements are valid as long as everyone involved agree as to meanings.
Not seen as cuddly nurturing types as parents, INTJs are very concerned with giving their offspring the ability to stand on their own and to think independently.
At the end of a relationship, the INTJ may be slower than some others to let go as they seek to understand the dynamic of the relationship's failure.
-Kroeger, Otto, and Thuesen, Janet M., 16 Way to Love Your Lover, 1994, pp. 245-246.
They prize their independence, and wish it upon everyone in their lives--mate, children, friends, and associates. They face a constant challenge of reconciling the vision of a perfect relationship with reality. They are inclined to constantly improve every part of a relationship, no matter how good it may already be."
INTJs come across as deep, somewhat serious, and intellectual. They may appear overly aloof and lacking in fun. They appear to see right through others, giving the impression that there is little that they don't or can't understand.
Thinking deeply before speaking, INTJs are usually slow to share. They love a conceptual exchange or discussion. Though they are not necessarily meant sarcastically, an INTJ's comments can seem biting to others, and they are often unable or unwilling to see their responsibility in a negative situation.
Though intimacy for an INTJ may be richer in its imagined state, they seek to frame it and understand it, after which they work constantly at improving it and deepening it.
INTJs may be very creative about finical schemes, but the day-to-day details are not their strong point. They tend to be very conservative spenders.
When faced with a conflict, the INTJ likes to have time to think out a response. They do not shy away from stressful encounter, but believe that a better understanding of the words used will allow any conflict to be turned into a learning experience. They may be accused of over-analyzing or intellectualizing a situation, particularly when a more sensitive type is involved.
INTJs stand by their commitments, though they may become preoccupied with reinterpreting the original contract. They believe that agreements are valid as long as everyone involved agree as to meanings.
Not seen as cuddly nurturing types as parents, INTJs are very concerned with giving their offspring the ability to stand on their own and to think independently.
At the end of a relationship, the INTJ may be slower than some others to let go as they seek to understand the dynamic of the relationship's failure.
-Kroeger, Otto, and Thuesen, Janet M., 16 Way to Love Your Lover, 1994, pp. 245-246.
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